“Consequences” In Kids Ministry

In a recent post, I explained what our discipline policies are for Kidmin.  Several have asked me to post our “consequences”, so here you go!

If you want kids to follow your “rules,” then you MUST  follow through with established consequences.  Consequences help kids own their behavior and teach them to make better choices.  Here are the established steps we follow when applying consequences.

1.  Remind the child of the rule they have broken.Often, kids just “forgot” and acted before thinking.  Have grace for those accidental mistakes.

2.  Official WarningSay, “OK, now this is your ONE warning.  The next time today that you break a rule, then I am going to have take action.”

3.  Move the child to a different seatUsually, the best place is right beside one of your workers.  If that is not possible, then move the child as close to you as possible.

4.  Remove the child from the room (bring them to office)
The child is brought to a “neutral space” outside of the classroom.  In our case, this is the Children’s Ministry office/Teacher’s Lounge.

5.  Pastor discussion –
The child is talked to by the Children’s Pastors.  Their attitude is assessed.  If they are repentant, then this is as far as it goes.  If they are not repentant or they have been sent to the office recently, then… 

6.  Parent meeting –
The Children’s Pastor will talk with the parents of the child when they come to pick them up.  The issues are thoroughly explained, and the parents are brought into the process.

7.  Suspension for one week –
The child is not allowed to attend the Children’s Service the following week.  They are required to sit with their parents in the main adult service.

8.  Suspension for three weeks –
If the child has been dealt the one week suspension more than once, then the next time they are suspended, it is for three consecutive weeks.

9.  Permanent suspension (we have NEVER had to do this so far)

Above all, let’s take a POSITIVE approach.  You get what you celebrate!

How about you?  What are your steps for consequences?  Share in the comments section!

3 Steps To Better Classroom Discipline

Discipline is a hot button issue for people who work with kids.  While public and private school systems have five days a week to instill a discipline plan with students, the church typically has about one hour per week to do the same thing.  It’s important to have a clear system in place.  The last thing you want to do is expect volunteers to come up with their own discipline plan without guidance or expectations.

1)  Keep it CLEAR

Successful Discipline comes down to two words:  CLEAR EXPECTATIONS

There is no way that kids can be expected to be held accountable to follow rules that are never clearly communicated to them.

2)  Keep It SIMPLE

Don’t develop so many rules that kids can’t remember them from week to week.  The rules I have used my entire ministry are the C.O.O.L. Rules (these are NOT original)

Care about your neighbor – don’t be a space invader

Only get out of your seat when you have permission

Obey the leader and don’t interrupt

Let’s work together – and be WINNERS!

3)  Keep It CONSISTENT

You have to be consistent in how you apply discipline.  Wavering in your discipline approach weekly causes confusion with the kids.  Being extra sensitive and calling down everyone one week, then being extra care-free and allowing all kinds of disruptions the following week will NOT help your kids at all.  Be consistent.

Discipline In Kidmin pt. 2

WEEKLY KIDMIN QUESTION:

“How do you handle discipline issues at your church?” – submitted by “Anonymous” in Dallas, TX

In my last post, I explained what our discipline policies for Kidmin. If you want kids to follow your policy, follow through with established consequences. Consequences help kids own their behavior and teach them to make better choices. Here are the established steps we follow when applying consequences.

1.  Remind the child of the rule they have broken.
2.  Official Warning
3.  Move the child to a different seat
4.  Remove the child from the room (bring them to office)
5.  Pastor discussion
6.  Parent meeting
7.  Suspension for one week
8.  Suspension for three weeks
9.  Permanent suspension (we have NEVER had to do this so far)

Above all, let’s take a POSITIVE approach.  You get what you celebrate!

Discipline Issues In Kidmin pt. 1

WEEKLY KIDMIN QUESTION:

“How do you handle discipline issues at your church?” – submitted by “Anonymous” in Dallas, TX

Discipline is a hot button issue for people who work with kids.  While public and private school systems have five days a week to instill a discipline plan with students, the church typically has about one hour per week to do the same thing.  It’s important to have a clear system in place.  The last thing you want to do is expect volunteers to come up with their own discipline plan without guidance or expectations.

Successful Discipline comes down to two words:  CLEAR EXPECTATIONS

There is no way that kids can be expected to be held accountable to follow rules that are never clearly communicated to them.

Keep It Simple

Don’t develop so many rules that kids can’t remember them from week to week.  The rules I have used my entire ministry are the C.O.O.L. Rules (these are NOT original)

Care about your neighbor – don’t be a space invader

Only get out of your seat when you have permission

Obey the leader and don’t interrupt

Let’s work together – and be WINNERS!

Keep It Consistent

You have to be consistent in how you apply discipline.  Wavering in your discipline approach weekly causes confusion with the kids.  Being extra sensitive and calling down everyone one week, then being extra care-free and allowing all kinds of disruptions will NOT help your kids at all.  Be consistent.

In my next post, I will share what our specific steps are for dealing with discipline issues.  So, don’t miss “Discipline Issues In Kidmin pt. 2”