Why I Won’t Pray The “Sinner’s Prayer” With Your Child

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If you have been in Kids Ministry for very long, no doubt you have encountered this scenario already.  Church is over, a parent walks up and says, “Johnny was asking me questions about how to get saved last night.  Would you explain what salvation is all about and pray with him to receive Christ?”  For many years, I have the standard answer… “No, I won’t.”

Now that you’ve decided I am a terrible Kids Pastor, let me explain.  When I first began in Kids Ministry, I would have answered differently.  After all, I was the resident “expert” on children’s spiritual needs.  I was trained, and it was part of my spiritual DNA.  I could communicate God’s grace to kids in a way that was clear and understandable.  Slowly, I came to the conclusion that I was the go-to person to meet the spiritual needs of every kid in our community.  I was filling a huge need, and it felt great.  As my confidence grew, I concluded that parents obviously aren’t equipped to share deep spiritual truth to their children. I was so wrong.

Let’s face it: God created the institution of the family long before He created the church, and kids’ ministry leaders came along even later.  The first chapters of Genesis establish the family as the primary social unit under the leadership of God.  Of course, those chapters also describe the fact that we chose to avoid God’s rightful role in our lives. We rebelled and experienced the devastating consequences of sin, but God didn’t leave us helpless and hopeless. His grace shines through even in our darkest moments. The role of parents is front and center in the process of reclaiming hearts.

Many parents are very conscientious about the spiritual role they play in their kids’ lives, but some struggle with this responsibility. Why? There are many different reasons. Shaping a son or daughter’s spiritual life is difficult and demanding. It requires insight and determination. There are no guarantees that a child will respond with glowing gratitude to a parent’s initiative. Many parents haven’t been equipped to impart spiritual life to their kids. They may be doctors, lawyers, carpenters, or skilled in some other way, but a lot of parents feel completely incompetent in leading their kids spiritually. Sadly, the church hasn’t done much to equip them.

To compound the problem, some kids’ ministry leaders have gotten in the way of parents.  A savior complex causes us to elevate our roles and look at parents as second class. When confidence becomes arrogance, we become a hindrance to God’s grand plan.  In addition, many churches have programmed the family worship experience out of existence by dividing up every age group and seldom (if ever) having the family together.  In an effort to fill the void left by inadequate parenting, some kids’ ministries have elbowed parents out of their roles as the primary spiritual leaders of their children.

That’s why I now have made the decision that I will not pray the “sinner’s prayer” with the child of a parent who approaches me.  Instead, I lovingly say, “No, I won’t.  But, I absolutely will stand here and agree with you as you, the parent, lead your child to Christ.  I would NEVER want to take away the greatest joy that a parent could ever have.  The joy of leading their own child into a relationship with Jesus Christ.”

What do you think?  Am I wrong on this?  Should a Kids Pastor spend more time praying with children to receive Christ OR equipping parents to lead their children to Christ?  Which will be more effective?  Leave a comment and let me know what you think. 

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56 thoughts on “Why I Won’t Pray The “Sinner’s Prayer” With Your Child

    • Thanks for commenting, Michael. I agree that there are times when a child attends church and their parent does not, certainly we need to take a more direct role in the child’s spiritual development. What I am more speaking about is when we, as Kids Pastors, take over the role of primary spiritual leader of kids. If parents are Christians that should not be.

  1. How right you area about this. The first intimacy and trust a child experiences is learned from their family; it begins and grows there. Leading and hearing your child into their confession of faith in Jesus Christ and plans to follow Him is an extension of that teaching. It is one of those responsibilities that a parent is privileged to carry out.

  2. Absolutely AGREE!!! I’ve been children’s pastor for 4 yrs and realize the impact I have, though important, will never carry as much weight as the family influence …and I don’t want it to. I am finding it difficult to influence change in my church. We have the segregated services down to a science and it’s killing us!

  3. I will stand in agreement with you here. However there are factors to be considered, where is the child/fam at emotionally, spiritually, and personally? I see too often salvation being approached as a check box of things to do, rather than the eternal decision it should be. I personally won’t make on the spot decisions. I schedule a follow up and find out where the child/fam is, before making moves forward. This gives me a clearer picture of where the heart and minds are actually focused.

  4. To answer correctly, equipping the parents is the most important role we execute. They have the most influence and direction in their children’s lives. Always pray for them, but empower the parents to be the spiritual leaders in the home front.

  5. I agree. I make a point during the lesson, when talking about salvation, to encourage them to talk to their parents about it first. If a child does not come from a Christian home it obviously changes the equation. I feel it is my responsibility to keep the parent as the spiritual authority and my job is to support them in teaching their children about Christ. Most of our “Church” kids get saved at home, led by a parent. I don’t think we should rob the parents or the child of that incredible gift.

  6. I absolutely agree with you. As children’s pastors we need to do a better job of building up & equipping parents to take the spiritual lead for their families. What a privilege they have to lead their children to Christ! I am thrilled to be able to see this happen!

  7. While I agree that the BEST scenario is the parents leading their own kids to Christ, I find that parents just don’t feel like they can and don’t want to “mess up.” Even as a Children’s Leader who’s been leading kids for over 20 years, I still get nervous myself. So I can relate with the parents. Salvation is extremely important, and while I know the scriptures to use and I’ve practiced talking with kids about their belief in Jesus, many parents are struggling with their own salvation and faith issues. Personally, I’d MUCH rather the parent take on the responsibility of leading their kids to Christ. But when they won’t do spiritual teaching in the home and leave it up to the church, they are abdicating their responsibility and I’d rather work with the kids to be sure their spiritual needs are not being ignored. I always ask the parent if they have spoken with the child and I tell the parent I am here for them if they themselves have questions. But still, I’d rather err on the side of the child.

    • Excellent perspective! Certainly, I am not advocating for a hard-and-fast “rule” on some sort. There are times when parents, even after training and encouragement, won’t take on the responsibility of spiritual leader with their kids. In those moments, we have to step in and assist in whatever way needed. What I am directing this blog post towards is the tendency of the “first response” of parents to bring their child to a “professional” Children’s Leader and ask them to pray with their child. Often, this is a first response – in those cases I coach the parent and encourage them to take part in this incredible opportunity and journey with their child. Much better than my tendency in the past to try to be the “SUPERHERO” and swoop in to save the day and lead the child to Christ myself.

      • I say “dittos” to future flying saucers post, and to your reply also Brian. First and foremost, the parent should in the lead role here, but as saucer said, and parent neglect their spiritual role, we should be willing to council kids who are seeking and asking questions about salvation in my opinion.

  8. Hi Brian- As the Director for a local Ministry on the east side of Waxahachie I have come in contact with so many that do not have ANY parent involvement. I would hope that all Churches are reaching out to the children in their reach that are in this situation. I have prayed many prayers with children that their parents are in jail or just do not have any say in their child’s life. Unfortunately, there are so many in this situation. For those that have a parent that is willing and equipped, I think it’s the best gift ever to lead your child to the Lord! But, so many today are not in this perfect scenario. Please let me say again- I do agree that if parents are Christians and are able that they should have that awesome opportunity. My heart goes out to the one’s that do not have this opportunity and pray that each of us reach out to those who need us the most. Thank you Brian for all you do! You are an incredible Kids Pastor and are MUCH APPRECIATED!!

    • we are definitely on the same page. As I have replied to others on this thread, I share your feelings and concerns about kids who have no parental involvement because their parents are not Christians. This post was specifically addressing the idea of parents coming to “professionals” and passing off the responsibility. When parents are not even part of the equation, that requires a whole new level of involvement and focus on our part.

  9. Having prayed the sinner’s prayer at age five in my dining room with my Mom, I would absolutely agree with you Brian! As Pastors, we are called to “equip the saints for the work of the ministry” and that certainly includes equipping parents to lead their own children spiritually. My husband, the lead pastor of our congregation, has been my example. When people call and ask him to visit their dying family members to pray with them, he typically tells them that that is their job. “It’s your family member, you have a relationship with them already, so I encourage YOU to pray with them and I know the HS will be with you!” The saints need a little nudge from us that God desires to use THEM to minister to everyone around them. On the other hand, I believe that when pastors and leaders bring the Word of God and the message of salvation to children for the first time, they almost always say yes to receive Jesus! I am overjoyed for the privilege to lead them to receive Jesus as their Savior. Thanks for reminding us today that our role is to empower parents to lead their families.

  10. Answer with a story from when I was much younger. I once had a mom come to me. Their kids and them were the picture perfect family. Young pretty, intelligent. Pictures of them belonged in frame at the back of the frame shop in the craft store. Mom was insistent that when her son wanted to ask Jesus to be Lord that she was brought out of the sanctuary to be there for the event. Her son was 6. Her insistence struck me as odd, but I thought this was good. Right? So he did. So mom came. After ward she immediately asked about baptism which I thought was weirder. After service I mentioned it to her husband wanting both of them to be included the conversation. a nonchalant moment became anything but. He became upset. Visibly upset, at her and me. Come to find out She was raised Catholic, He was raised Mormon. They are now married and standing in the lobby of our Evangelical/Pentecostal church. He believes that children should not be “coerced” into conversion b/c of his background and shouldn’t even be baptized or anything till they are an adult. Mom’s religious background led her to a totally different conclusion. And…here is the key…they had never spoken about how this affects their kids until that day…And I got to be in the middle of it. Since then I never pray the sinners prayer with a child without both parents being aware of what we are doing and why, and having at least one parent present and letting them do it with their children, not me. Not so much out of fear, but out of a lack of knowledge of how parents view that. Communion, baptism and other special observances that could be interpreted any sort of way. The child was never baptized while I was there by the way. And the family eventually came to us for marriage counseling. Which was a great step. But they told me a lot of it started when they realized they weren’t on the same page regarding the “when” of these moments in their child’s lives.

    • EXACTLY! Yet, if there are no parents or family available to the child and the child wants to accept God through the sinner’s prayer how should we handle that? Should we counsel the child first on what it means to invite God into their life? How much does the age of the child enter into this? Years back I had a 12 y/o boy in a youth program I was a part of. He didn’t know who his father was. He lived with his mom but she was physically and emotionally abusive (the county and state were involved at that point) Wherever we went he wanted to hold my hand. When we sat anywhere he was next to me, nearly on my lap. He knew nothing of God. I focused on loving on him, extending to him proof that he was visible and lovable. Could the sinner’s prayer, in this situation, be used just as an invitation; a participatory, out loud message to self that he could make with one person who, for a short period of days, really loved him? What do you think? This scenario occurred often where I was working. Insights?

  11. I agree with you, esp when you provided the follow up/follow through part about being present when a parent(s) do the main work of the prayer. And, like you, I also believe that the spiritual growth of far too many people is expected to be imparted on them by a pastor or church leader. We’re expected to put God in a neat, small box, gift wrap it then let the recipient excitedly open it and be spiritually equiped (and the threat of pride in that action) How would you address baptism in this context or children, as was my case, who have no spiritual guardians but want the prayer extended to them themselves?

      • It’s so often that the ministry staff are expected to provide all things God to kids whose parents can’t or won’t. We can’t escape that fact. When working with youth that meant I did my best through a relationship with me to bring the child to a place where he/she felt safe and confident enough to accept Christ regardless of what went on at home. For the past 2 years I’ve been working with the homeless and, even though these people are adults, the same lack of knowledge exists and the same relationship is necessary to even make the idea of God a touchable thing and desireable. For the adults baptism was a concern too. They wanted the symbolism of it but knew nothing about what it really meant. My question is more of a rhetorical one: What happens when a child OR an adult knows nothing of God and there’s no one else there to introduce God to them? I wish I could say I’ve had lots of testimonies regarding a parent/family being the real resource for their child accepting Christ. I wish I could say that many of the homeless men and women I meet already know Jesus. I think those in ministry are expected to do much of the work by default.

  12. I appreciate your take on this issue Brian. My question is what about the child whose parent or parents don’t attend your church. As you may remember my ministry is working with children of divorce.

    Many of these kids have parents who only send their children to church. There are no “parents” in these situations only a parent.

    • Right with you, Linda. Several others have asked the same question. This post was specifically addressing the idea of Christian/churched parents coming to “professionals” and passing off the responsibility. When parents are not even part of the spiritual equation, that requires a whole new level of involvement and focus on our part. I am all for that! I have many children who are brought by neighbors, grandparents, etc. We have to “stand in the gap” in those situations. But, those were definitely not the focus of this post. Make sense? THANKS for your input!

  13. As a parent, I really appreciate your heart on this. Great wisdom here. Often wondered what we can do to engage parents more proactively. Appreciate you!

  14. I totally agree w you. I want soooo to help guide my brand new baby granddaughter to Jesus. She is 2 days old. Her mommy and daddy grew up loving Jesus. I would so like to see parents more involved in leading their to Jesus.

  15. Great post! I do the same thing – but I’ve also faced the ironic issue of parents getting upset when we do a Gospel invitation at church and they feel we “robbed” them of the opportunity to pray with their child at home! I didn’t want to completely not share the Gospel because of this, because many kids don’t have parents who are saved, or who ever will – so we tried to strike a balance of letting parents know when we would be doing an evangelistic event so that they could “beat us to it” if they wanted to see if their child was ready at home ahead of time, but in the end, if the child is ready, we sometimes need to strike while the iron is hot, and then encourage the parent that their role is follow up, discipleship, and so much more than just an initial prayer! They are the KEY to long term discipleship! But I wholeheartedly agree with coaching them through it when they walk up and ask the ‘pastor’ to do it – let them be the spiritual parent! Amen!

    • Karl, do I gather that you try to communicate with the parents before a salvation message is given on a Sunday? I agree with what Brian is saying and I regrettably baptized a teenager who responded to a message the night of water baptisms in youth group and a parent was very hurt and I felt bad about it.

      But I’m at a loss about how to handle a kids church service that I’m planning for Sunday.

  16. I agree with you, Pastor Brian. In fact, your refusal to fill that role (that is mine anyway) actually makes me feel empowered. At the same time, I am VERY grateful for the network of pastors and friends my husband and I have as a resource when we do need help. I think that is what the church’s role should be in a kid’s life, at any age: an institution of committed believers who come alongside to reinforce and confirm the good discipleship that is being done at home. After all, not many things done at church will become the fabric of a child’s character unless they are modeled at home as well. As parents, we can teach–or have someone else teach–what we know, but we will reproduce who we ARE.

    Thank you for not leading my child to Christ. Lol! Thank you for reserving that privilege and responsibility for us as parents, and for supporting and celebrating all along the way.

  17. Wow! Pastor Bryan, This needs to be a surmon. As a parent and a grandparent I never really thought about it thay way. But your correct. How can I be a leader of my family as God as commanded if I can’t even
    bring my own children or grandchildren to christ and pray to God the sinner’s prayer. We will set down with a friend or even a stranger and pray the sinner’s prayer after witnessing to them but not our own children. We all need to take more time in church to teach and encourage our parents and families to step and be the ones to pray the sinner’s prayer with our children. But, at the same time I think it is good that if the child’s Pastor helped in the process of bring the child to christ he should be included. It is very important for that child to build a relationship with spritual leaders outside the family as well.
    Keep up the good work. God Bless You

  18. “When confidence becomes arrogance we become a hindrance to God’s grand plan.” Wow! I pray that I would never be a hindrance, only a helper. Great post Brian. Thank you.

  19. OH BOY have you hit the nail on point! Having been in the ministry for almost 50 years I have heard almost every excuse a parent can come up with and in many cases it is OUR FAULT — I believe we are missing a vital part of our ministry to the children. It’s called preparing the parents for the big moment of when their child comes to ask what does it mean to be saved/how do I get saved? I have gone to asking the parents to come to our class at any time they wish to OR feel the need for extra information. I teach the children in my class and let the adults come along for the ride. If I have a video the adults have to watch the video. If I have a flannel lesson (YES I STILL USE THESE), or a chalk talk of stick people — whatever I do for the class, the parents must come along.

    I have had a greater positive reaction from the parents than a negative reaction.

    While in one of my classes I give the plan of Salvation with the opportunity for every person to receive Christ — never will I teach without giving this opportunity. If I am asked to guest speak this is understood before I agree to speak anywhere.

    I have had one experience that blew even me away. I went to Jesus after I left the school that day — I was working as a teacher in a Christian school and asked Him “WHAT HAPPENED that these children almost ended up hell?” — 3 kids were killed in an auto accident that very night.

    We were having the Chapel Service and it was my turn to speak. I agreed and when I was talking to the kids I went to the 3-4 grade level for the story understanding. We had K-6th. I told simply why Jesus came to earth. Not to heal people — but He did. Not to raise people from the dead — but He did. Not to feed the thousands — but He did. Jesus said He came ONLY to die on the Cross for our sins. But He did so much more to prove He was the One True Messiah. The I told them they could have this same Jesus a part of their life. Every day. Every minute. Every second. Every thought. Every breath. Jesus wants to be there with each of you. We had 27 3-6 grade students, All claiming to be Christians. When I asked them to prove to Jesus they wanted Jesus to live inside of them and they had never done so before. Come to the alter and we would pray together just then and Jesus.
    25 kids came forward. The rest of the day, I was praying with the kids one-on-one. Three parents that went to a Christian church — grew up in the church had never heard that Jesus wanted to be part of their lives. They also came forward that day.

    Do I pray with the child — sometimes. I do if I see panic in the parent’s eyes. If this is asked just because I do this “all the time” NO WAY. That is for the parent. I would that I was never needed but until we are in Heaver, this is a job I will carry on as the Lord leads.

  20. You’re biblical by keeping the parents first in leading their child’s spiritual orientation. Now, I encourage you to pray about leading anyone in a sinner’s prayer for regeneration. Look at the depictions of the conversions of the three thousand on Pentecost (Acts 2:5-42), and of the five thousand (Acts 3-4:4), the Ethiopian eunuch (Acts 8:26-39), Saul/Paul of Tarsus (Acts 9), and Cornelius and his household (Acts 10), and the 12 disciples that Paul baptized at Ephesus (Acts 19:1-9). Not one of these involved leading anyone in prayer!
    So then, if the biblical way of salvation became inadequate, when and why was it supplanted by the sinner’s prayer? Where does it (the Bible) depict a preacher saying, “Repeat this prayer after me…”, or, “Pray something like this.”
    May God bless you, Brian, with understanding rather than the modern-day church teaching error!

  21. Right on Brian! 100% right…..Sunday School wasn’t intended for church families it was for street kids. We have allowed Christian parents to relegate THEIR responsibility .

  22. Brian, I love your perspective and agree. And it is true also that circumstances may require a more involved role. I have this perspective to share: as kids get older, they tend to question their faith apart from their parents. At times like that it can be very useful that they have relationship, past encounters with and admiration for other Chtistian mentors that they look up to who have been a spiritual coach as well. Never a replacement for a parent. And always with great humility and respect for such a huge responsibility to partner with parents. As both a parent and my kids’ children’s minister for years, I can attest to the need for those in the church who will step up and be spiritual coaches to kids in their community. Thanks for all you do! I learn a lot from your sharing.

  23. I agree that you would do very well not to lead a child in the sinner’s prayer. Also, parents should definitely be equipped to lead their children to Christ. However, I would suggest that the sinner’s prayer is not found in Romans 10 or Revelation 3:20, so we would do well to point children and adults to embrace Christ directly in faith. The studies here:

    http://faithsaves.net/ask-jesus-christ-into-heart-sinners-prayer-saved/

    gives some of my reasoning.

    Thanks for the post.

  24. You have it right for those situations where parent/s are invested/involved in their child’s spiritual life. Sadly, I think there are some kids that really don’t have that spiritual guidance but are old enough to understand the truth about Jesus and they want a real relationship with Him. In those cases, we shouldn’t hesitate to help guide them into the Savior’s arms.

  25. I love your approach here but I have a question. I ussually avoid the sinners prayer altogether because it does nothing to confirm the cost involved to follow Christ. How do you relate this cost and level of commitment to young children? It greatly concerns me that many people believe they are saved because they repeated a prayer to avoid hell many years ago, prayer that we don’t find in the Word, and then continue a life that serves themselves. Not trying to judge a decision – I’m more concerned that we may mislead people with this approach.

    • You’re exactly right about that, Lee! That’s why I put the term in quotes in my title. There is no specific prayer given to us except, “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins…” And of course “Confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart God raised Him from the dead, and you will be saved.” The words themselves aren’t important, the attitude of the heart is what’s important. Thanks for bringing that up. I appreciate your input!!

  26. How I wish I had been there to lead my child to CHRIST. Where was I? In big church, of course. So, was it a group prayer, was it an individual prayer with questions answered? So many youth have a group prayer (keep your eyes closed, no one needs to know). But that not what the bible says. We should be bold, shout it from the rooftops. Even the Angels rejoice. Yet, I could only hear a children worker say, your son said the Lord’s Prayer. My second son, the. The next church we were attending did the same, and even had baptism without letting the parents know!!
    Now, I have adult children who I haven’t taken the time (although those instances were not my choice or fault), to really discuss a walk with Christ. By looking at one of their lifestyles I have to ask, if 1 john 3:9 is true, then this salvation never happened. And where is that children’s worker? Not here.
    Thank you sir, for this. How I wish that I had been a part so I could start that walk with them, instead, I am left with questions, and prayer. Don’t get me wrong. I am praying and standing. All of my children are taught of the Lord and great is the peace of my children. As for me and my house, we WILL serve the Lord. All of my household is (to be, will be) saved.
    I blame no one. It was the way it was done. I rejoice at the children whose parents did not go to church, who accepted Christ into their heart. But this philosophy in this article is the right way to go. Pull me out of church, I am there. I would have treasured being called from church to sit with my child and tell them How much Christ means to me. To take that first step with them. And, be a part of it.

  27. I agree 100% that it brings great joy to pray the sinner’s prayer and lead your children spiritually to God. I was able to experience my children being led to Christ both ways. I was super excited for the ones who were prayed for by their pastors, but the ones I prayed with, man it was another level of joy to be a part of that! It’s also awesome to continue to be a part of their growth. We took communion together the other day and I explained the symbolism of the bread and wine. Then I went a little deeper with the wine/blood and explained how they had to sacrifice a perfect lamb and shed it’s blood in the Old Testament in order to make atonement for their sins and get forgiveness and how Jesus is our perfect lamb. They totally understood and were excited as I put it on their level and what joy it brought me to hear my 9 year old say “I learn everything about God from you”! That encourages me to continue to teach them at home in addition to what they get at church. They like to hear it from me too! 🙂

  28. Great article! Thank you for writing this! Your blog came up when I googled “Sinner’s Prayer for Kids.” When I have talked to kids at VBS about salvation I generally take much longer than the other counselors and try to give them a shortened version of the main themes, especially as they relate to salvation, of each book of the Bible. Only a few understood what I was saying and made it to the point of asking God to take their bad away (because they understand Jesus took their punishment for them) and asking God to be the boss of their lives.

    Then comes my own firstborn. He is 8 now and has been asking about salvation for almost 3 years. We ask him lots of open ended questions: what does it mean to be saved, what are you being saved from, how can Jesus save you, who is Jesus, etc.

    He has some processing issues that most likely stem from oxygen deprivation at birth. He does ok in school but many concepts come later to him than to his peers. In a situation like this, would you study “The Sinner’s Prayer” with him or would you wait it out and continue to pray that the Holy Spirit would open his mind to understanding salvation?

    • I would do both. Talk consistently about God’s plan for his life and what Jesus did on the cross for all of humanity. Personally, I don’t think a child has to be able to explain the ins and outs of the theology in order to receive Salvation. The Bible says, “Confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead and you will be saved.” That’s it. I know many adults who aren’t able to explain the mystery of the Gospel in clear terms. Allow him to receive, and let his faith grow as he grows.

  29. Brian, I appreciate your comment about programming the worship experience out of existence by separating the family by age group.

    We have started an intercultural church plant where we intentionally bring that back. The whole family eats, fellowships, prays, and worships together. There is a short time where we dismiss the kids during the sermon time but ask them to return for prayer.

    I believe in the long run my three kids and the other children will appreciate us modeling honest and passionate worship.

    I knew where you were going with this post from the beginning and I agree. In fact, I would take it a step further (perhaps with adults and not children) to have them NOT repeat a prayer that someone led them to say, but in their sincerity, pray from their own words, no matter how elementary.

    Keep up the good work!

    (BTW: we went to college together and I used to play drums at “Oakcliff.”)

    • Thanks Damon!!! Hey – I used to play drums at OCAG as well! Small fraternity we are in! Ha! I appreciate your comments and am very excited about what you are doing in your church plant!!

  30. I agree with you -if the child has Christian parents. Children learn more by daily life with their parents than by a few hours a week at church. Church should supplement what they learn at home!

  31. I think you should never pass up an opportunity to pray with a child for salvation. No one is promised tomorrow. Today is the day of salvation.

    By all means, encourage parents to pray with their children for salvation too. It won’t hurt your kids to pray more than once.

    Often our understanding of salvation is progressive. Each time a child prays for salvation, he or she has a greater understanding of what he or she is doing. In God’s eyes, salvation may be a one-time-occurance, but from our perspective, salvation is more a direction we are headed. So, the children’s pastor can help the child take one step and the parent can help the child take another.

  32. I agree. Most parents aren’t there themselves and they are the ones responsible for cultivating that child. You ,as youth pastor, are an added bonus!!!!! So if the parents can’t do that, then they need to “””really get saved”!!! So they”””” the parents””” are equipped fulfill their God given has given duties!!!

  33. I love this. I have often heard adults say their child was asking questions and they just didn’t know how to answer and I think if you yourself are a Christian why do you not know how to answer. And a lot of times I think adults don’t think young children know what they are doing but my daughter was 4 when she asked Jesus in her heart and you will never convince me that she didn’t know.

  34. You are so very right in this! Parents miss out on one of the greatest blessings they can have when they hand over the opportunity to lead their child to Christ to a children’s worker/pastor, etc. That is not to say that there are not times when the pastor/children’s worker would lead a child to Christ, but if possible, the parent is the one who should have that joy!